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If you continue to choose a negative reference group to surround yourself with, you are condemning yourself to failure and lifelong underachievement. Your associations are one of the most important factors or influencers that will determine how your life will turn out. These influencers will determine whether you stick to your goals or whether you remain permanently derailed.

Your reference group or the people that exert the most significant influence on your life seem to be more important than any other factor in determining your level of success or failure. Your associations are very subtle and these influencers do not push you in direction, they gently nudge you off course over time. The changes in your attitude, philosophy, self discipline and commitment will gradually erode. The changes will be so subtle that you will not even notice them.

The people you surround yourself with, will affect al areas of your life:

1)    Your health will be a reflection of the combined average of these influencers.

2)    Your finances will be the average of the people you choose to bring into your inner circle.

3)    The quality of the relationships you will enjoy can only ever mirror the relationships of the people that surround you.

4)    The attitude and philosophy you project to the world will be the combined attitude and philosophy of the people you hang around the most.

List the five people you spend the most time around in all the areas of your life. Then add up the numbers and see if these people are contributing to the future you desire or whether they are pulling you away from the success you deserve.

First let us explore the finances of the people you surround yourself with the most. To simplify the exercise I have chosen two numbers, namely their level of income and their debt or asset value. You want to ensure that these numbers are aligned with your picture of the future you desire to create in your life.

If the people around you have an average income level that is way below where you want your income level to be, or they are constantly in a debt spiral. Then these people are holding you back from creating the future you desire. These people are standing between you and what you want to achieve. Have the courage to take action to change this situation or you will remain trapped in medicocrity.

Finances

Name                            Income                         Debt/Asset Value

1)

2)

3)

4)

5)

Total                             ——————-                   ————————–

Average                        ——————-                   ————————–

On the health front I once again chose two very simple measurement criterion. How many time /week do they exercise and are they in shape or overweight.

Health

Name                            Exercise/week             In Shape/Overweight

1)

2)

3)

4)

5)

Total                             ——————-                   ————————–

Average                        ——————-                   ————————–

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Measuring attitude, philosophy is more difficult. I therefore want you to examine the people around you and subjectively assess these. Draw up a similar chart as above and see if these are aligned with where you want your life to go.

After carrying out the above exercise, you will have a far better idea of the quality of people you surround your self with on a regular basis. The challenge now is for you to make a few tough decisions regarding these associations. If you are committed to reach, stretch and do things that you have never done before. If you are committed to break free from your current life and create the life of a super achiever.

You will need to reappraise and re-prioritize the people you choose to surround yourself with. The people you have around you most certainly affect your life. They will nurture you, starve you or keep you trapped in an un-fulfilling life of mediocrity. Have the courage to use the information you have gathered and to remove the people from your life that are holding you back.

Your success and level of achievement, depends on you cutting the losers loose and striving to only including people that contribute to your success in your life. The more time you invest with people that reflect the type of success you desire the sooner you will begin moving down the path of super achievement.

 

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