Are Your Associations Serving You?

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The people you associate with can be both a huge asset and be great contributors to your success. Or they can negatively impact your life and slowly, almost unnoticed, nudge you just a little off course every day. Until you wake down the road wondering how you landed up so far off course and how things managed to go so wrong.

Take a really hard look at your environment and evaluate everyone that you spend time around that has some form of influence over you. How are these associations affecting me? What have they got me doing, listening to, reading, thinking and most importantly how do these associations make me feel? Be brutally honest with yourself and make a list of all your associations.

There are two main criterion, firstly are the associations positive and do they make you feel good and contribute to your success. Promote these associations and work to spend more time around these people. Secondly, are the associations negative and draining and do they sap your passion and drive. You want to limit these associations as far as possible and even eliminate these people from your life completely.

Both groups of people exert influence over you; one group will contribute to your growth and take you where you want to go. Whilst the other group will creep into your life, like a thief in the night and slowly over time rob you of your energy, passion, drive, discipline, potential and success.

Two associations will help you to go in the direction you want to go. So stop wasting your time on people that are like vampires that drain your life blood and energy and begin to invest your most valuable asset, your time, with only people that matter.

After you have carried out your personal audit and decided, which associations and relationships are positive and contribute to your success and which don’t. You only have three choices available, so that you can gain the maximum benefit from all your positive associations and reduce the effect your negative associations have on your life.

Disassociate – Completely eliminate those draining and dream killing people from your life. This is obviously not a decision you should take lightly, but I believe it is a really crucial and often very difficult decision to make. This very tough decision will eliminate a huge drain on your potential and help you realize the quality of life you desire.

Limited Association – If you are unable to completely dissociate from certain people and eliminate your associations with them completely. Due to family ties, work associations then it is imperative that you limit the amount of contact you have with these people. We have so little time at our disposal; invest your most valuable asset very wisely. Invest major time into associations that will assist you and minor time into relationships that could hurt you.

Expand Your Associations – As this is the area where you are going to leverage the most benefit, it is obviously the place where you should focus your energy. Identify people that you believe you can have a mutually beneficially relationship with that will contribute to mutual growth. These are called associations on purpose and should be a conscious part of your success strategy.

When you invest time around these people you expand your circle of influence and by default you reduce the amount of time you waste with the wrong people.

Author: Andrew Horton Greatest Motivational Speakers South Africa



  • Clyde Straughan /

    Thanks for this reminder, I think we all have people in our lives that we know are bad for us but, we hang on to them for all the wrong reasons. I definately need to take a hard look at my own life and do some disassioting.

    • Clyde Straughan /

      Your regular feedback is most sincerely appreciated Clyde. You will be amazed at how quickly things change in your life when you undertake this very important housekeeping exercise. This is one of those small shifts in your life that will deliver astounding results. Please vivit my website at for more information and assistance to get this very important ball rolling.

  • Interesting and scary – I clearly need to make some changes.

    Thanks for the interesting blogs

    • I really appreciate your regular feedback Jenni. It is really rewarding to know that my posts are serving you and adding some value to your life. It is quite a scary rea;isation that the people we associate with have such a profound effect on our lives. It is for this reason that we must always be at the guard of all our associations and we must most certainly work on improving the type of people we associate with on a regular basis.

  • Hi Andrew

    Great read and must agree with your sentiments


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